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NOTE: In the updated and expanded 20th anniversary edition of the
Sacred Woman handbook that was published in 2021 there are twelve
Gateways of Initiation instead of ten. The additional Gateways are Gateway 10: Sacred Time (rise at 4 o'clock, "wombnifest" from 11 a.m. to 3 p.m., practice self-care between 4 p.m. and 6 p.m., and recharge throughout the night) and Gateway 11: Sacred Work (live out your purpose, know your vision, your life's mission, spiritualize the service you offer). Please note that I used the "original" publication as reference, not the anniversary edition.
The 3 Month Program
DAILY SCHEDULE
Wake Up – Wake
up around 4 a.m., and do your Sacred morning routine between 4 a.m. and
6 a.m. when your intuitive energy is the strongest. This is the time of Nebt-Het, the Lady
of the House and the Body Temple, the spirit of intuition.
Sacred Bath – Draw a bath using Epsom salt or Dead Sea salts (do not use any salts if you have high blood pressure or oedema!). Your bath should be a spiritual ceremony with
lit candles, inspirational music, incense and essential oil.
Altar – Set
up your altar as described on pg. 26 in the book. Choose a room or area
that is private and undisturbed by the public.
Prayer – Offer a prayer to open the Gateway and invoke each Gateway's spiritual guardian, as provided by the book. If this doesn't resonate with you, I suggest coming up with your own meaningful prayer.
Libation – Pour a small amount of purified water into a bowl and saying the prayer on pg. 29 of the book.
Pray and Chant – either using the prayers and chants (hesi) provided by the book, or using your own heartfelt versions.
Fire Breaths – Slowly increasing from 100 to 1000 over time, practice fire breaths as described on pg. 29 of the book.
You will add 100 more fire breaths to each Gateway, with the ultimate
goal of reaching 1000 fire breaths. Such a powerful practice!
Meditation – Meditate using corresponding healing stones
and/or colour visualization exercises as described on pg. 30. The
goal is to build up the time we spend in meditation daily, working your way up each Gateway / week from 5 minutes to 90 minutes.
Herbal Tonics – Drink an herbal tea, while doing your altar, prayer and journal work, according to the Gateway you are in. I like organic tea from the brand YogiTea.
Flower Essences – Add a flower essence to your water, as described on pg. 31 and pg. 138/139 in the book.
Journal Writing – Write in your journal following your altar work and meditation.
You can describe your thoughts and feelings, the day before, what
changes you are proud of, who you want to be, you can also write down
your goals and aspirations. Use a dedicated Sacred journal for this.
Movement – Move your body by doing the Dance of the Womb
presented in Gateway 3 (pg. 95).
Quilt – Add a piece of cloth to your Senab freedom shawl or quilt, corresponding with the colour of each Gateway.
Affirmation – Close your spiritual morning routine by speaking words to help you on your sacred journey.
Dietary Changes / Cleansing Food Plan
The suggested diet in the book is based
on the ancient basic Khamitic (Egyptian) diet which consisted of beans,
lentils, peas, barley, millet, nuts, fruits (such as dates, melons, and
pomegranates), vegetables (such as onions, cabbage, and peppers), and
healing herbs such as gotu kola, nettle, aloe, garlic, and parsley.
You are instructed to follow the Womb Wellness cleansing food plan on pg. 83. Basically,
Queen Afua recommends a vegan diet with a high ratio of raw foods. Meat,
eggs, and dairy as well as sugar, table salt and processed grains,
canned and frozen foods are considered "dead" oppressive foods. Instead, you should eat lots of vegetables, fruits,
sprouts, lentils, beans, peas, nuts in moderation, and soy-based meats
in moderation. Abstain from heavier starches such as potatoes or sweet
potatoes, or eat them in moderation.
Womb Detoxification & Rejuvenation
- juice therapy
- live foods
- nature's herbs
- water therapy
- movement and breath
- essential oils
- clay infusions and applications
- enema
- oil packs
- massage
- celibacy
I recommend following the 25 Natural-Living Womb Rejuvenation Techniques that are explained in the book on pg. 96–101.
My Experience
WHAT I DID (AND WHAT I DIDN'T DO):
As
I've already mentioned in my book review, I was struggling to purchase
all of the numerous required tools and ingredients, such as certain flower
essences, essential oils, herbs, tonics, crystals, plants, altar objects, and even
clothes. As a more minimalism-minded person there were a lot of things
that I didn't own (especially clothes in certain colours), and it was
also kind of off-putting to purchase and prepare all of this beforehand.
Perhaps, if you were to do this
program with a couple of female friends or at least one other woman (as I
would recommend!), you could share certain products such as flower
essences, essential oils etc. That way it wouldn't be as overwhelming.
What I did end up getting were most of the essential oils (except for white rose and lotus which I couldn't find anywhere), most of the crystals (except for aquamarine, gold carnelian, indigo sapphire, and bloodstone, which weren't available at my local crystal shop), and at least one piece of clothing for each Gateway, which I partially borrowed from my boyfriend and my mum, lol. Instead of the laxative herb cascara sagrada, which I couldn't find anywhere, I took the triphala powder that I had also taken daily for my Ayurvedic cleanse.
What I didn't get were the flower essences (because I didn't find them anywhere), most of the herbal tonics (the only teas I got were chamomile tea, and an herbal tea with lemon balm and eucalyptus in it), a pendulum (didn't find one in time), and like I said, some of the herbs, crystals and essential oils.
Some other ways that I didn't stick to the provided program are that I didn't draw a daily bath, mainly because I don't have a bathtub, but I also find it quite consumptive of water to take a bath every day. If I had had a bathtub, I would have taken a bath once a week during the program.
I also didn't get up at 4 a. m. I tried, I really tried! The problem was that I didn't fall asleep earlier than 11 or 12 p. m. (which is my natural rhythm). So after getting up at 4 a.m. for almost a week, and being completely sleep-deprived to the point of feeling dizzy and a little sick all day, I decided to wake up at 6 a. m. instead.
Another thing I didn't do was sew the Senab freedom shawl. It didn't resonate with me, simple as that.
Lastly, like I've also already mentioned in my review, I didn't commit to an increasingly raw vegan diet because I already knew (and it had been confirmed by my Tibetan doctor) that my body doesn't do well on a raw vegan diet. I tried to avoid sugar, but apart from that I followed my regular vegan diet.
So, I guess you could say that I didn't REALLY truly follow the Sacred Woman program – and you are right!
I adjusted the program to my own life, my needs, and my priorities. After all, I still mostly stuck to the provided program – I did my alter work, anointed my body with the essential oils, I spoke the prayers and chants, I did the Fire Breaths (and yes, I made it to a thousand fire breaths in the end!!), I meditated, I journaled, I did many of the womb cleansing techniques such as internal clay packs, yoni steaming and enemas, I was celibate, I did almost all of the weekly transformative tasks, I ate a vegan diet, I reduced my sugar intake, I even gave myself a spiritual name in my little initiation ritual which stands for wisdom, beauty and bliss...
THE BEST PART:
Definitely the journaling, as I explained above, including the womb journaling! It has left the most long-lasting impression.
I also really enjoyed the Fire Breaths, which felt powerful and energizing, and were challenging enough to make me feel proud every time I was able to increase the number :)
The most inspiring week was definitely Gateway 4: Sacred Beauty for me, with empowering writings about femininity and reclaiming our natural beauty, as well as the importance of the colours and even shapes we wear. The skin care, the empowering part about embracing and celebrating our natural hair, which is something I have struggled with most of my life, giving myself clay facials, making a Sacred Beauty collage – I just loved it all! Unfortunately, I didn't get to make my own waist beads because I couldn't find any crystal beads such as rose quartz that were small enough and had a hole at the time. But I am still determined to make my waist beads!
Another favourite of mine was Gateway 5: Sacred Space with tasks like purifying and beautifying the home and of course decluttering (I just love decluttering 😍). Along with my boyfriend and my parents, we also had a very special cleansing ritual of your current home, and we even gave it a name: "The Peninsula of Clarification" that is very meaningful both my partner and me.
Just overall getting to spend time with myself and my spiritual / emotional womb was probably the most valuable part of this Sacred Woman program, as well as taking the time to care for my womb physically, using clay packs or doing intuitive sensual womb dances. I feel like I've also become a much more confident dancer overall :)
THE WORST PART:
I've already talked about this, but: getting up at 4 a. m. Honestly, I'm still kind of bummed that this didn't work out for me – but like I said, after a couple of bleary-eyed and dizzy days I prioritized my health over following the program to a T. I am a night-owl after all.
Apart from that, there's really nothing unpleasant that I can think of. Although ... I stand corrected. There was one other thing that was quite unpleasant at first, and that is: enemas! Yup, I didn't like the concept of it, and I also didn't like the feeling. But once I had done it a few times, it became less awkward. I mean, after all it's just one of many methods of cleansing your body 🤷🏼♀️
What I've adopted into my everyday life:
- Journaling, using the questions to set a daily intention
- Doing yoni steaming occasionally to cleanse my womb, usually a couple of days after my monthly bleeding (The Sacred Woman program also helped me feel much more at peace with my menstruation, by the way!)
- Doing vaginal clay packs occasionally
- Taking enemas (only to prepare for a cleanse)
- Working towards a beautiful and divinely feminine wardrobe that uses much more colours!
- Caring for our sacred home in a loving way
- "Khepheratizing" my words
- Taking on healing as a way of life
FINAL THOUGHTS:
Reflecting on how I implemented the Sacred Woman program into my life, I'd say I did as good as I could at that time – and I applaud myself for that! It's not easy to take time for yourself, for self healing, especially when it requires 3 months of commitment. I don't consider this experience to be a done and complete project, but rather one stage of my journey towards self love and healing.
After having done this modified (simplified) version of the actual Sacred Woman program for three months, I really want to do this program again next year or so, this time over the span of a whole year, so spread across 12 months instead of 12 weeks: January–March: Gateway 0, April: Gateway 1, May: Gateway 2, June: Gateway 3, July: Gateway 4, August: Gateway 5, September: Gateway 6, October: Gateway 7, November: Gateway 8, and December: Gateway 9. The reason for this is that I found one week too little time for some of the Gateway tasks, e. g. my favourite Gateway 4: Sacred Beauty for which I ended up doing a face mask that week as well as an at-home manicure, a scalp and hair treatment, and starting to create a beautiful feminine wardrobe for myself, and I also contemplated my definition of beauty – but I didn't get around to making my own waist beads or creating a Sacred Beauty collage, or taking an air bath, or wearing a sacred shawl, which I really wanted to do.
So I am thinking of doing an entire Sacred Woman year in terms of meditating, journaling, and doing the tasks. I am not going to be celibate for an entire year, and I am also not going to follow the dietary changes (100 % raw in December? In Northern Germany? I don't think so!).
I am also planning to do a third round of the Sacred Woman program (maybe in a few years, or this year), but this time over the course of 12 days instead of weeks, so basically one day per Gateway – with the exception of Gateway 0 which gets 3 days.
If you are looking for a way to cleanse your body, your mind, your relationships, your entire life, and return to a more natural, peaceful, loving way of life – read this book! Do this program! (And if the whole concept seems too daunting, at least do a paired-down version of it, like i did!) I promise, it will get you further along on your personal and spiritual growth journey!
And if you are still hesitant, let me put it this way: If you DON'T participate in coachings and programs like the Sacred Woman program, you will stay in the same place you are now. You will not evolve. You will not grow into the best version of you, your Higher Self.
It's up to you!
Lastly, I want to share something that "came to me" during an evening walk after reading Sacred Woman:
»I AM A HEALER BY NATURE.WHATEVER WILL HAPPEN IN THE FUTURE,
AND WHATEVER HAPPENED IN THE PAST,
I CAN AND I WILL HEAL MYSELF.«
🙏🏼
I
hope my little "testimonial" here gave you some insight, and perhaps you
want to do your own Sacred Woman program some day ... If so, let me know
how it goes!
♥
Maisy